Flirt Friends

Do you have a flirt friend?  If not, you should consider it, at least if you are single. If you are not, then stick to your mate. As we discussed earlier, it can easily be construed as cheating.

I don't at all believe in friends with benefits - never works; one or both always ends up hurt. But flirt friends are pretty safe, and pretty harmless.  Boundaries are set, nothing will ever happen beyond flirting, but the flirting can certainly spice things up and make you feel pretty good about yourself. If you are anything like me, a little extra spice and feel good conversations is just what's needed.

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So why not take it to the next step?  That would ruin it.  It's the whole distance that makes it work.  When you can openly say exactly what you want on the phone, via text, on line and sometimes in person, knowing that it will not go any further; compliments and "wishful thinking" (for lack of a better description) flows pretty freely.  Being truthful is not always necessary - it's simply a game.  As soon as you try to make it more than it is, you worry about how the other person perceives you and communication becomes quite restrained.  Where is the fun in that?

Some would argue that actual dating probably is the better way to go.  But having flirt friends doesn't stop dating - frankly, I find it's a good source for a man's input when I need it. Just as I've given my candid opinions from a woman's perspective. And dating takes a bit of effort...having a flirt friend doesn't.  All fun and games, and no work.  So find a (flirt) friend, and go flirt.

Never Forget

 

On this 10th anniversary of 09/11, my thoughts and prayers go out to all the families who lost loved ones that day. We will never forget!

Love this song

I got up early and have listened to music all morning.  I cannot get enough of this song by Adele.  Love it, love it, love it!! 

Loving Life

After spending most of this beautiful weekend outdoors, I have renewed my love for God's wonders, and have really taken the time to enjoy it and experience it all over with my children.  But the beauty we experienced is a far cry from what others have had to deal with lately - hurricanes, flooding, earthquakes, tornadoes and wild fires.  Mother Nature seems to be quite pissed off. 

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Maybe there is a connection between it all, or maybe it's just chance.  I don't know, and I am not searching for a big explanation. But with so many major bad events occurring around the country, maybe it's time we went back to enjoying the little things in life. Maybe it's time to stop complaining about the economy and what the politicians are doing or not doing, placing blame, and predicting even worse times to come.  Maybe it's time to wake up in the morning and be happy first of all that we have another day to enjoy, and then go on to make the most of it. 

I don't mean to undermine the effects of any major events lately, and understand that if you have lost your job due to the economy, your home, or worse, a loved one due to extreme weather, it is hard to appreciate little things. But for the rest of us who were lucky enough to escape it, or at least most of it, I think it's time to change. 

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When you have to crawl out of bed in the wee hours of the morning to get to work or get the kids ready for school, look outside and enjoy the fact you got up early enough to see the first rays of sun hit the sky.  When your kid brings in an "amazing" bug just so you can see it, enjoy the fact that you did, and that you have a little one who is brave enough to touch them, should one ever wander back in on its own.  When your friend calls for advice on something you may not care about at all, enjoy the fact that she values your opinion enough to ask you. When your neighbor stops by with homemade pie that tastes awful, appreciate that you were the one she wanted to share with.  When you have to walk from the back  corner of the parking lot to the store, because that is the only open spot you could find, be happy that you are still able not only to walk the distance, but also that you have the money to go shopping.  

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Get the idea?  It is easy to enjoy big events, parties, gifts, promotions, pay-raises, recognition etc. etc.  But we fail to see the good in all the little things we encounter throughout our days. Being happy with what we have, appreciating the little "annoyances" in life, and seeing the good (or at least trying to) in every situation, does not stop us from growing or keep us from reaching our goals and dreams.  It simply makes the journey there much more enjoyable!

Hockey Family Gets $50,000 Lesson in Honesty

OK, I'm not a hockey fan, but what a shot this kid made, winning $50,000 - or so they thought:

Money is obviously not everything, and the kid's dad brought us a lesson in honesty.  For $50,000, I am not sure I would have been honest enough to reveal that it was the wrong twin that took the shot,  but Pat Smith did.

According to MSNBC, the insurance company that insured the event has decided the family will not get the money, but that the prize instead will be given to two charitable organization.  Pat Smith said, "I think they  learned that honesty is always the best policy, and you can never go wrong telling the truth.’’ I applaud him, he is a better person than me. 

Even the son is gracious about it: “It feels bad (not to win the money), said Nate, "but I’m happy that they at least gave something so all the other kids can still play and get gear they can’t afford.’’

Telling the truth also earned the boys scholarships to the summer program at Shattuck-St. Mary’s School, an elite boarding school that hosts one of the top programs in the nation, so if for nothing else, they probably will have a winning season!